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Can you just imagine this post next year:
'My husband has fathered a child with his ex-wife behind my back. I feel so betrayed, I don't know what to do. Does he still love her? Should I leave him? How can I ever trust him again?'
Now OP, think of what you would write in response to that. Because that is why this is a horrible, selfish idea.
Now look deeper and think of how you will explain it to your child when they're older:
'Well honey, I wanted another child and even though I had no partner I thought it was a good idea to have one with your dad, even though he was married to someone else. Yes, it cost them their marriage, and yes, it was an awkward situation with your dad after that, and yes, your siblings do blame your birth for how devastated their father was after the second divorce. I'm not sure why he did it - but probably because he is an irresponsible man with no moral compass who is really easy to manipulate when motivated by sex. So basically, all of these current problems are because he's awful and I wanted another child and I didn't care who I hurt to get one.'
Find a partner, use a sperm donor, put eggs on ice, buy a puppy - but don't follow this hideous idea.
My husband physically can’t have children so should I just lie to him and f**k my ex?
I’m not stating you are a bad person because I don’t know you from a bar of soap.. but f**k me this is a horrible idea.
Do you understand how easy and non expensive it is to just get your ex husbands sperm and I pregnant yourself without putting his c**k inside you..? You both obvisouly want to have sex with each other.. you getting pregnant is just a bonus for you.
Don’t even say “no I don’t want to have sex with him I just want a baby” cut the shit you can easily do it without sitting on his c**k and if you don’t think that then you are dumb as all f**k.
And how many times are you planning on having sex with someone elses husband before you conceive 😳
Ridiculous idea. Find yourself a new baby daddy. If you and your ex wanted more kids “together” then you should’ve stayed together.
Family units are not traditional anymore. I have a school friend with 5 kids, 3 different dads. She aint no hoe that’s just how life worked out for her. They’re all still brothers and sisters regardless of the dad situation. I’m assuming current wife isn’t an air head, there’s more to IVF than a cover up story. It’s kind of like saying your pregnant but stuffing a pillow under your shirt and faking the symptoms.
OP, how would you honestly feel if you were the new wife, and your new husband was banging his ex to knock her up, especially without your okay on the matter? Doing it all behind your back, looking for creative ways to lie to you about it...
Hey OP, did you notice the hashtags on your question? Even the SAHM bot thinks this is a betrayal.
Why did you get divorced if you still want to have sex and raise kids together?
This is wrong. If my husband did this I would be concerned I might kill him let alone leave him. What a low act for both if you to consider. Artificial insemination is still not good enough. That is also betraying his WIFE that neither of u seem to give a shit about. And I think he just wants his cake and eat it too but by cake I mean your love muffin. Haven't you ever heard of a sperm donor? That is your option right now. Why do u even need another baby if u have 3? Is it because your youngest is approaching 8 years old and u will be taken off parenting payment and expected to work?
wouldn’t your husband rather have a child with his current wife, rather than having to pay more child support to a child with his ex wife? It makes no sense.
What does make sense is he wants to cheat on his wife with you.
Okay, so this is a shit idea. I have a lot of negative thoughts about this, but I'm trying to keep them in (because most people have already summed up how vile this is).
But, if you're serious, why not say the conception is from a one night stand, but that he wants to support the baby financially because it's his childs sibling and he feels like its the right thing to do.
Still trying not to be a bitch, but, have you thought about whether he has any ulterior motives here. Maybe he has contracted herpes since the split and wants to pass them on to you. Maybe he intends to take no responsibility for this child. Maybe he just wants to see his new wife punch you in the face for suggesting this arrangement at all.
Just something to think about.
I do agree with everyone else though. A terrible (and vile TBH) idea. If you want to break up his marriage, then it’s perfect.
Omg OP. Can you hear yourself. Is this post for real??
Well your ex hubby has to jerk off into a turkey baster. Once he has then you shove it up your clunge and release all the little babies.
Otherwise why she really needs a fourth..?
I spoke to my ex and his fiance. She said if she discovered he'd fathered another child to me it would be the biggest betrayal, even more so with sex thrown in, and she'd leave him and take everything she could and make his life hell haha. Then we all had a laugh at your expense that you're clearly a selfish, brain dead, brat.
If you want more, why don't you foster? Or failing that, just spread your legs to anything that moves and pop out some random baby? You clearly don't care where it comes from as long as you get what you want